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Senior black couple on couch, comforting each otherStates Seek Financial Relief for Family Caregivers Lawmakers in California and at least seven other states want to provide state income tax credits for families that need help with home caregiving. – NYTimes.com

caregiver combing senior patient's hairA Guide to Caregiving at Any Stage Whether you’ve just taken on the responsibility of caring for a spouse, parent, family member or friend, or you’ve been doing it for many years, the need for good information and support never ends. – nextavenue.com

Can't We Talk About Something Pleasant book coverRoz Chast’s graphic novel about caregiving in four cartoons In “Can’t we talk about something more pleasant?” Chast chronicles her parents’ move from independence to dependence – MemoryWell.com

Female caregiver is semi-invisible behind chairsThere are 40 million caregivers in the US. How can they seem so invisible? There are more than 40 million caregivers in the United States today. So, how is it that they can seem virtually invisible? How can people so essential to others lose their identities? To see what I mean, the next time you see a caregiver, just ask this simple question: “How are you doing?” Whether you’ve just taken on the responsibility of caring for a spouse, parent, family member or friend, or you’ve been doing it for many years, the need for good information and support never ends. – MemoryWell.com

young caregver and senior patient in wheelchair gazing out window copy A Guide to Caregiving at Any Stage Whether you’ve just taken on the responsibility of caring for a spouse, parent, family member or friend, or you’ve been doing it for many years, the need for good information and support never ends. – NextAvenue

Man-questioning A Home-Mate Is Not A Caretaker (But Can Make a Difference) A home-mate is a person who shares the home and has an independent life. While home-mates may help each other out, it is a reciprocal relationship where each gives and receives. – sharinghousing.com

senior couple in room looking out windowWhen Is It Time to Find Long-Term Care for a Spouse or Partner? For better or worse, in sickness and health, whether we officially make those vows or they gradually become part of our lives, there are few times this sentiment is as harshly tested as when a spouse or partner is diagnosed with a life-altering or life-ending illness.- Next Avenue

Caregiving for spouses couple holding handsand partners Changes in the physical, mental or emotional health of a spouse or partner can have a profound effect on relationships. This can include one partner taking on the role of caregiver of the other. – Michigan State University

couple with same athletic jerseys onFamily Caregiver: Building Your Care Partner Team  It is far too easy to think as a spouse (or primary family caregiver) facing caregiving … “I can do it all” or “I have to do it all”. – transitionagingparents.com

woman in wheelchair with caregiversThe Amazing Alternative to Nursing Home Placement If you are a family caregiver of an aging loved one with increasing physical and mental decline, you may be getting close to a tipping point, not sure how much longer you can meet those increasing needs. – transitionagingparents.com

rural desert landscapeCaring for a Loved One with Dementia in a Rural Area Growing older and managing illness and disease in a rural setting comes with its own challenges related to finding care.— Samada.com

More Caregivers Are No Spring Chickens Themselves  Gail Schwartz wants to keep her 85-year-old husband out of a nursing home as long as she can, but it isn’t easy.— The New York Times

Taking Care | PBS NewsHour  Many videos and articles are available. – PBS

3 Mantras Every Caregiver Needs3 Mantras Every Caregiver Needs It’s a good idea to remember that no matter how much planning you do, there’s no substitute for experience. Research is important but it’s overrated as a predictor of success.— Anne Tumlinson, Daughterhood.org

adult-daughter-with - aging-dadSoaring Numbers of Adult Children Caring For Aging Parents In 1994, only 3 percent of men and 9 percent of women helped provide basic care for a parent. Fifteen years later, 17 percent of men and 28 percent of women provided such care.— Nancy Rhine, MS, LMFT, CPG

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Books

reluctant caregiver book coverThe Reluctant Caregiver: Missives from the Caregiving Minefields by Joy Johnston One moment, digital journalist Joy Johnston is a cynical workaholic with an underwater mortgage. The next moment, she faces the responsibility of caring for her eccentric mother who’s battling colon cancer, just six months after her father’s death from Alzheimer’s. As an only child, she has no choice but to slap on the latex gloves, and get to know more about her mother — and herself — than she ever imagined possible. The road from reluctance to resilience is bumpy and splattered with bodily fluids, but it also offers unforgettable lessons. Who knew you could learn how to change a colostomy bag on YouTube, or that hospice nurses like telling dirty jokes? Peppered with snarky humor, vivid observations, and poignant honesty, this essay collection will resonate with anyone drafted into a family health crisis. 

Bittersweet Season book coverBittersweet Season: Caring for Our Aging Parents — and Ourselves  by Jane Gross The longtime New York Times expert on the subject of elderly care and the founder of the New Old Age blog shares her frustrating, heartbreaking, enlightening, and ultimately redemptive journey, providing us along the way with valuable information that she wishes she had known earlier.